Rough Week

The title says it all.  This week has been so rough, it's ridiculous, but most finals weeks are.  Pissed a few people off, but I'm only human, ya know?  Can't do anything about it now, and I can't please everyone, this is a reality I have had to realize this year.

I've always been a people pleaser, and it's really unhealthy.  For those of you who are people pleasers, just understand what I'm saying is true, and it can really take a tole on your life and your health.  Since I'm now working on myself and getting back into good shape, I've got to cut out all the bad stuff, and sometimes that means people too.  It's just a reality we have to face.

Every week, I listen to Jillian Michael's podcasts.   Girl is funny!  And she has good advice sometimes too. ;)  Ok, most times.  Her podcast lasts week, March 4, 2013 really put things into perspective for me.  She decided that she's an Expert on Relationships, aka Love Doctor.  I don't know about all that, but some of the things she told to Natalie, a caller, were relevant to my life, even though I don't have 'love problems'. 

Basically, Natalie has a problem with always dating the wrong kind of men.  They always make her feel bad about herself, and feel like if she could just change A, B, and C about herself, they would love her.   No brainer, that's not healthy...  Now, this isn't my problem at all, but when they got down to the root of the problem, Jillian helped Natalie to realize that her real and actual problem is, she's a people pleaser.   She always has felt like if she can change certain things about herself, people will love her, and she can be what they need, whether that be friends, family, or boyfriends. 

Boom, nail on the head.  This is me.  Always always always have I tried to change myself to be what people need.  Now, I'm not saying I'm a chameleon by any means, that's a whole different animal altogether, but I do try to be what people need from me.  It's exhausting.  It really is.  And it's a habit that is all too hard to break.  Especially when people already see that trait in you, and expect you to bend over backwards to be what they need.

I am so thankful that this has never carried over into my 'love life'.  I've never been too concerned with dating, until I found Adam, and I'm so lucky that it ended up the way it did.  I think I knew that I shouldn't have to please anyone when it came to relationships, that if they didn't like me the way I am, then there's a problem, b/c I'm pretty fantastic.  I hate when I see my friends going through this, and think they need to be what the guy wants.  If he doesn't want you the way you are, move on, b/c there's someone who will.  Waste of time.

I know that's all easier said than done, but it's just my observation over the years, and I'm so thankful that I've never fallen into that trap. 

I'm a new me, and I'm so excited about it. Cutting out the crap means bad food, and bad people.  Healthy mind and body!